tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post8667646851843627542..comments2024-01-06T15:58:20.726-07:00Comments on Never Ending Journey: Update on......Lyniluhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-33765251624683391662008-10-10T08:33:00.000-06:002008-10-10T08:33:00.000-06:00(M)ary,I'm going to make another post about this r...<B>(M)ary</B>,I'm going to make another post about this rather than answer you here. Okee-dokee?Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-23985995746648653102008-10-09T21:47:00.000-06:002008-10-09T21:47:00.000-06:00I read Betty's advice and if someone really wants ...I read Betty's advice and if someone really wants to be in a relationship, I totally agree with her advice! I have been a long term single woman and I have had similarly single friends.Over the years, I have seen irrantional courting win the day more often than rational behavior.<BR/><BR/> I think a sense of outright over the top need to be in a relationship is what motivates people to find a mate. So, yeah, I think not hesitating, not worrying and barrelling full steam ahead can lead to romance.<BR/><BR/>But I am not sure this guy is worth the effort, at least not for you, Lynilu. He sounds like a "project"...(M)aryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10753777348163655324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-47217685257611418442008-10-09T21:43:00.000-06:002008-10-09T21:43:00.000-06:00(M)ary, it's OK. It obviously wasn't meant to be. ...<B>(M)ary</B>, it's OK. It obviously wasn't meant to be. I feel fine about it. <BR/><BR/>I understand that people deal with their grief in different ways, but moving on is healthy, and probably what the late spouse would want (that's assuming the relationship was a healthy one). Somehow, passing up a chance to have a new friend in your life doesn't seem healthy. Oh, well, not my problem!Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-29515122571859236122008-10-09T21:28:00.000-06:002008-10-09T21:28:00.000-06:00ah. too bad it didn't work out. but on the bright ...ah. too bad it didn't work out. but on the bright side, you stood by your convictions, you communicated well, you remained as open as possible. sounds like YOU are ready for someone to come into your life. too bad he is not ready.(M)aryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10753777348163655324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-79951085075392254662008-10-08T21:21:00.000-06:002008-10-08T21:21:00.000-06:00Red, his friend (one of the "go-betweens") already...<B>Red</B>, his friend (one of the "go-betweens") already knows that. Yeah, he missed out on a good thing.<BR/><BR/><B>MJ</B>, .... or it can be easier if everyone recognizes the baggage and chooses to put it behind. I think I have, he hasn't. I'll find someone someday who gets it!Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-4865511681609489552008-10-08T21:20:00.000-06:002008-10-08T21:20:00.000-06:00I know that all of this has been very frustrating,...I know that all of this has been very frustrating, but you should be proud of your attitude. <BR/><BR/>I agree with what MJ said....dating is so much easier when there is not as much baggage. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14476059033054104085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-32942411233338482242008-10-08T20:39:00.000-06:002008-10-08T20:39:00.000-06:00The whole dating thing is such a weird thing to be...The whole dating thing is such a weird thing to begin with. It's much easier when you are younger and there is not so much baggage involved.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13954750251946195653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-10528202356063221482008-10-08T16:58:00.000-06:002008-10-08T16:58:00.000-06:00Some learning lessons suck!!!!! Glad this one was ...Some learning lessons suck!!!!! Glad this one was a minimal one. I say he missed out on knowing a great person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-22171593604765722952008-10-08T15:19:00.000-06:002008-10-08T15:19:00.000-06:00Daisy, so am I. It helps that he wasn't the kind o...<B>Daisy</B>, so am I. It helps that he wasn't the kind of guy that I just immediately was ga-ga over. Few of those anyway!Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-30437175095433382422008-10-08T15:08:00.000-06:002008-10-08T15:08:00.000-06:00I am glad you saw it for what it is and didn't inv...I am glad you saw it for what it is and didn't invest any more time in it.Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05401667744228083776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-32313821471672289822008-10-08T15:05:00.000-06:002008-10-08T15:05:00.000-06:00MQ, thanks. I just figure I don't need more headac...<B>MQ</B>, thanks. I just figure I don't need more headaches, and it was beginning to feel that way.... before a relationship was begun!<BR/><BR/><B>Kathi</B>, it has been so long since I've dated that I've forgotten how many problems come with it. sheesh! Why didn't you warn me??? LOL!<BR/><BR/><B>Betty</B>, one definite difference is that at my age I feel that if I never date again, so be it. At your age, I would be waffling, probably. I would love to date, to have a special someone, etc., but I won't lose sleep!<BR/><BR/><B>Annie</B>, the final analysis was that if he couldn't find the impetus to build the relationship, he wasn't going to find enough to maintain it. I would have probably been frustrated at some point, so just put the brakes on now. Thanks.Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-81681342835136722842008-10-08T14:17:00.000-06:002008-10-08T14:17:00.000-06:00"I'm not ready to (1) compete with the dead wife, ..."I'm not ready to (1) compete with the dead wife, (2) be his therapist, (3) always be sorting out WTF is going on! I don't think he has let his wife go, and that is too complicated. I just want a simple relationship, friend or whatever. This one ain't simple!<BR/><BR/>It has been 10 days since I sent the email. I'm guessing he realizes he isn't ready."<BR/><BR/>He doesn't deserve you, Lynilu. <BR/><BR/>Being friends and making plans is easy. <BR/>Communicating is easy. <BR/>Keeping your word is easy.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you didn't invest more in him, seeing as he can't do any of those 3 things.<BR/><BR/>((hugs))Constancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02702046097986873803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-60853672468159609562008-10-08T10:39:00.000-06:002008-10-08T10:39:00.000-06:00It doesn't sound to me as if he's on your level. ...It doesn't sound to me as if he's on your level. Maybe your straight talk will bring him closer to your level- we'll see.<BR/><BR/>The other part of me says WHAT?! Don't let a potential relationship go! You may never find another man! Just sell out, Lynilu, sell out! Tell him you'll drive out to where he lives- he doesn't have to do anything- and you totally undwerstand that he'll never get over his late wife! Come on, Lynilu, get desperate! Tell him to call you! In fact, you call him!<BR/><BR/>(Now you know why I've never had a successful romantic relationship.)<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-36753644257669120722008-10-08T10:17:00.000-06:002008-10-08T10:17:00.000-06:00First off, his freakin' loss. I HATE this dating ...First off, his freakin' loss. <BR/>I HATE this dating stuff. Every single time I've gone out, I can't wait to go home! I dunno, this is hard stuff.kathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998865477080265039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28840534.post-37806992194685895902008-10-08T09:53:00.000-06:002008-10-08T09:53:00.000-06:00I imagine that is a hard situation from his end AN...I imagine that is a hard situation from his end AND yours! You handled it (are handling it) well!Monogram Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201245389134780751noreply@blogger.com