First of all, let me warn you that I'm gong to express a lot of cynicism in this post. WHAT?!?!
Ms. Ray of Sunshine" Lynilu being cynical? Can that all exist in one sentence? Oh, yeah. But it is not bitter, ugly cynicism, just the huh? kind.
What do you think of same sex marriage? Do you think it should be allowed?
Personally, I'm skeptical. WAIT, WAIT, don't flog me!! I'm skeptical about marriage, period. I can't help but wonder why a group would fight for something as flawed as the marital institution. I mean, would you buy, drive home and put your dear family into a car if the probability that you will arrive safely at your destination in one piece were less than 50%? Those are the statistics about marriage! I wouldn't drive a car that was rated at less than 50% safety on the road. I found statistics as high as 57% of failed marriage; barely four in ten marriages survive!! You want me to climb into a vehicle that is that likely to have mechanical failure? I think not!
I'm not really against marriage. I'm just saying that it makes no sense to me to scramble toward marriage when the institution is so damaged. If marriage were a treasure, as it should be, then yes, it would be worth the fight. I think it is sad that marriage is such a casual, easy-come, easy-go type of relationship.
Relationships are the core of our lives and hold much of our mental/emotional stability in place .... or send it spinning and flailing into the darkness. So why, why do gays fight to be let into this morass??
I think, if you're worried about the "rights" of marriage (not "rites"), then get a lawyer, draw up a solid contract ( a living will even gets you around the inheritance taxes), including directives of who can visit you in the hospital or make final decisions for you, and spend the difference between the lawyer's fee and the wedding costs on one hellava vacation (an un-honeymoon???)!! IMO, the important thing is the solid foundation of the relationship, the commitment, the love and devotion. And none of those require a contract, a legal or religious component. In fact, the legal or religious things are nothing.... n.o.t.h.i.n.g.... without that other list.
On the other hand, perhaps the gay community will teach all of us something about commitment. I know some couples that have been together for longer than many of the hetero couples around. We need to recognize that people are just people, and don't we all want the same basics, including the right to live with the person we love without harassment, scorn and ridicule? Don't we all want to be seen as simply fellow citizens, trying to make a go of it in the world? And bottom line .... who freakin' cares??? As I said above, I really don't see what the "sanctity of marriage" adds to a loving relationship. But it does add for many people, so let it be. Let people love who they wish, how they wish, and under the legal umbrella that is currently held for "heterosexuals only." (Hmmm, doesn't that remind you of another distinction from the near past? "Blacks only" was not long ago, folks.)
OK, I'm done. And now you know my cynicism isn't against the people who have different paths than my own. It is just against fighting to have .... or to insanely hold onto .... an exclusive institution that is crumbling as I speak. But that is just me. Now .... enjoy the video below!!
I'm leaving the house no so no one can find me and flog me!!! LOL!!