These are random musings of my life journey, the people, animals, places, and events which have woven, and continue to weave, a tapestry that is me. We all know there is no real destination, only the ongoing experiences which blend together, creating the trail. Each step gives a glimpse of what is to come, without allowing me to see the end result. It is exciting. I have a home base that is mine, that gives me a place to rest. This is it. This is where my heart is, no matter where I journey...................

Friday, July 17, 2009

F*aceb**k Frustration

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I just figured out one reason that Facebook will never replace blogs, IMO. People take advantage of the quickness and efficiency of the format, the "one liner," so to speak. That is convenient, for me as well as anyone else. But ....

I'm tired of reading posts that are like half-thoughts. It feels like I've broken into the middle of a conversation, and I have no idea what is going on. A lot of these are from people I know (or thought I did), either IRL or via the Internet, yet many times I don't understand the abbreviated statements.
Gonna get 'er done.
Did it!
Start over.
The answer is in the tea leaves.
That hurt.
Did not, did not, did not!
I hate this.
(I am not using quotes, just similar statements for examples.)

I assume these might mean something to people who directly and personally share much of your daily life. But if people already knew these things, I'm not sure why I would write them on Facebook. If they don't know what I'm talking about, those tidbits aren't going to tell them anything! Often when I ask a person what that is about, there is no answer. These things make me feel like I felt years ago over the "BE" situation!

Maybe I'm missing the whole purpose of Facebook. I hate this. Maybe I need to start over and look for the answer in the tea leaves. Maybe someday I will say gonna get 'er done. And eventually I'll yell did it! Who knows? I certainly don't get it at this time, and I gotta say .... that hurt. Does anyone else see these "shorties" and wonder about them? Maybe I should just let it go and BE.
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17 comments:

  1. You got me thinking about BE all the time!! I tried to search for it on google...no luck. It's like a puzzle.

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  2. I know, (M)ary, I googled it and I used some other search engines, too. Nuttin'!! And BTW, I didn't use LSD in those days, so I'm not trippin'!

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  3. I agree with you about the one liners. I usually don't get them either. I only joined recently and I'm annoyed by all the invitations I get for things like cause invitations, friend requests by people I don't know and other gifts of things and food fights and farms and different quizes to find out what drink you are most like or what movie. And if you click on it you end up in all kinds of trouble! I'm just trying to catch up with some people I haven't heard from in a while and it does seem to be good for that if you can just ignore all the other stuff. I agree that blogging seems much more personal and in depth! Blog On!!

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  4. Deb, good, I'm not crazy!!!!!

    As for the games, quizzes, etc., I ignore most of them. Once in a while I do one, but like you, my main purpose was to reconnect, and that part of it I really love! Shhh, here's a tip: When someone does a lot of the gobbeldy-goop, I "hide" them. Then I simply go to their page occasionally and sort out the parts I want to read. Works really well!

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  5. Are you crazy??? Should you really have put a loaded question in there?? :)

    I also hate the one liners and am getting really annoyed at all the invitations I am getting. I guess some of them are OK, but most days I end up getting between 10-15.

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  6. Oh, I could write a book on this one. Being the eager beaver I am about things I joined Facebook and succeeded in getting Bob's siblings and some other family members to join a private family group for which I am the administrator. There are 26 of us, ages 14 to 85. We have a private page where family members post pictures and information.

    It has some good things but drives me crazy most of the time. This week our 14 year old has been in ICU in the hospital. It's been wonderful for sending group e-mails updating her condition. She's improving now and enjoying family members touching base with her from day to day. That's the good side.

    Because I'm the administrator I feel compelled to keep up with what's going on so I'm reluctant to hide too many of them which means I have to read through a lot more stuff about water balloon fights, and bear hugs than I like.

    I may be finding another good use for it however. "Chatting" with a few blogging friends, getting to know each other better. I think that may be a good use. I've just beginning to work on that idea.

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  7. Caroline, me, crazy?? What?? ;)

    I’m really bad about keeping up with those requests. As I write this, there are almost 90 things I need to sort out! And I cleaned it up less than a week ago.

    Yeah, I like some parts of FB, but blogging is still my favorite way to go for communication and getting to know people.

    Linda, wouldn’t it be nice to pick the features you like from FB and those from blogging, combine them and have your perfect online tool?

    I love having found several friends from long ago that I’d lost touch with. I love that a few family members who are poor emailers will do short posts on FB. I like the chatting, too, as you mention. I just get frustrated with one-liners. Oh, yeah, and themultitude of invites, quiz results, etc. that clutter the screen. I guess it will take a bit longer to iron out the kinks for me.

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  8. I dont like the quizes and stuff either and I have a ton and I only send gifts to people that I knwo that enjoy the farms. I would rather blog.

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  9. I am with you on the one-liners. I can't read your mind, just tell me what you are thinking and don't make me guess. It makes me CRAZY.

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  10. Bobbie, they both have their uses. Brief, quick (but complete thoughts, please!!!) communication is excellent with FB, but blogs fill my"getting to know you" needs better!

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  11. The other things that drives me crazy is when people use abbrevations on FB. I don't mind it on TXT messages, but I don't understand adults that use it on FB.

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  12. I haven't seen much of that. A little, but most of my "friends" are not using it. I know what you mean, though. It seems like overkill, doesn't it?

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  13. I think I don't have too much of a problem - at least now that I have culled my friends list down to people who are actually my friends. But I do still occasionally get the one liner that doesn't make sense. Just tonight I read the word, "Done!" Well, done with what? Someone else asked that question, but I didn't want to be bothered. I kind of figure if they really want people to know, they'll spell it out all the way. --Cheryl

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  14. Cheryl, maybe I'm being picky, but why do people put those out there if they don't want people to know? That seems like inviting friends in for tea or coffee, saying "bird's eggs," and leaving the room. You know, if it is only for yourself to understand, do an anonymous blog and one word it all you want! I 'spose if it works for them, so be it, but I'm beginning to "hide" those who do that consistently so I'm not curious all day long. That's what works for me, so we are all happy! :D

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  15. I guess I might add one more thing. That behavior strikes me as being rude. There is a lot of self-centered, rude behavior around, and I just don't wish to be involved with it. Again going back to the "BE" post, dangling something that another doesn't understand and refusing to include them rankles my nerves. Perhaps I'm just old and crotchety. OK. I can live with that!

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  16. I think you just described perfectly why I will not "twitter" and I only really use facebook to check in with people and ignore other stuff about it. It's just too confusing.

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  17. Julie, you know, twitter doesn't interest me at all. And FB is good, once I got the hang of it. I love being able to find friends and staying in touch with family, etc. It's just the one-liners and plenitude of quizzes that get to me, but that is the thing that the young'uns like best. Yeah, I ignore a lot of the superfluous junk, too.

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If you have something to say about it, just stick out your thumb, and I'll slow down so you can hop aboard! But hang on, 'cause I'm movin' on down the road!!! No time to waste!!!