If you know someone who has lost a loved one in the last couple years, give them a call or invite them to join you if possible during the holidays. It can be really hard to get through holidays when everyone is so happy and you can't quite get in step with it. A few words can mean a lot.
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By the way .... a reminder to us all. Don't assume someone should "be over it." Unless they aren't able to live a pretty normal life, be kind and supportive, and don't criticize. We grieve forever. It gets easier with time, but the grief is permanent. If a hand is cut off, you learn to get along and to do things differently, but the fingers are gone forever.
Grieving is never easy.
Grieving is never the same for two people.
Grieving is never the same for two deaths.
Grieving is a lot of things, but it is never what
we expect it to be when it happens to us.
Grieving is something no one has to do alone.
Grieving is never the same for two people.
Grieving is never the same for two deaths.
Grieving is a lot of things, but it is never what
we expect it to be when it happens to us.
Grieving is something no one has to do alone.
One last thing .... remember that people grieve ALL loss, not just a death. In divorce, we grieve the loss of a family; we might be grieving the loss of jobs, homes, financial security, a pet, etc. If someone has lost anything, be kind. Let go of some of the frenetic holiday pace and pay attention to those around you.
Peaceful holidays to everyone!
Well said, of course. Maybe it's why a few days ago I pulled out a memory book of our one and only pet dog Doogie to read through. We still miss him terribly though he's been gone three years now.
ReplyDeleteI guess it helps to go through old pictures and notes to remember their lives and the good times you've shared together.
Wishing you all the best this holiday season.
Dave, I can relate to how you feel about Doogie. I still miss my Shih Tzu, Mai Lin (5 years), Ali and China (both 3 years). it's still hard at times.
ReplyDeleteHoping your holidays are highly blessed. :)
thanks for that Ll...
ReplyDeletemy grief for Jasper is almost unbearable..... and I have to do all this Christmas frivolity.
I can hardly wait for it to be over!
Very good post and it is much appreciated!
ReplyDeleteA very good post.
ReplyDeleteHope you have a very Merry Christmas!
Thanks for sharing this. You are so right on. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteThanks Lyn..a much appreciated post. I cannot deal with much this year. Hopefully, I will get back to normal in a few months.
ReplyDeleteThanks, all. I know many of you (All?) are dealing with grief issues. We all need to remember we are not alone. It's hard to not feel so, but while our own grief is ours alone, there are those around us who love us and who want to support us. Peace.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your timely post - peace and blessings to you Lyn.
ReplyDeleteGrief does have so many stages. It is a good reminder to reach out to those who have experienced loss of any kind during these holidays. Warm words from someone can always make a difference. Blessings :)
ReplyDeleteNE/ME, you're welcome, and thank you, as well.
ReplyDeleteSeamus, you got it. The words need not be about the loss, but just warm. Blessings back. :)