From my personal experience and working with families in my career as a social worker and in hospice and during bereavement, take some advice.
Marry a friend.
Oh, sure, love is important. You’ll get no argument from me on that. But there has to be genuine attraction, but ya gotta have friendship first. And last.
Passion is fabulous. But passion ebbs and wanes. And during the “wanes,” you have to have the friendship to get you through. Remember that for most folks, the urge for sex fades or completely disappears. Yeah, I know, “Little blue pill, blah, blah, blah.” But seriously, it becomes less frequent, less important in later life. During the times when sex, passion is less of a driving power, you’d better have the friendship to carry you through.
I’ve met couples who haven’t had sexual intimacy for years because of aging or because of illness, and I can tell you, almost without fail, which ones are friends.
These are random musings of my life journey, the people, animals, places, and events which have woven, and continue to weave, a tapestry that is me. We all know there is no real destination, only the ongoing experiences which blend together, creating the trail. Each step gives a glimpse of what is to come, without allowing me to see the end result. It is exciting. I have a home base that is mine, that gives me a place to rest. This is it. This is where my heart is, no matter where I journey...................
Sunday, October 07, 2012
I've done a little cleaning out my computer files yesterday and today, and I've found a few gems that I've penned .... or rather "keyed" .... in the last couple years. Most of them are things that bounce around in my head until I write them down, and some of the really surprise me when I rediscover them. I'm going to post them here from time to time. Here's the first ....