A blogger with whom I've traded comments for quite a long time suddenly dissed me. I'm not sure what the deal is.
She wrote a rather sad post about the difficult economic times she is having and her faith that all would be well in the end. I commented with what I thought was a supportive post recounting a time in my life that was also very challenging and noting the faith that carried me through. To my surprise, when I published the comment, I found she had added the feature that allows for her to review the comments before publishing. I have no problem with that, I was just surprised and wondered what had changed. As I always do, I checked back several times to see if she responded (yes, I do that!) but she hadn't published my comment, or any others, for that matter.
A week later she posted about how she had shared the story, hoping to get "encouragement" and "prayers," and how sometimes we are disappointed that others don't respond as we wish. I thought about what I had written to her, and while I don't recall the word-for-word, I felt sure that I was supportive. So I dropped her an email in which I told her that if I had offended her I was sorry and that I thought I was being supportive. I didn't hear from her. I waited another few days and when she posted again, something unrelated, I dropped another email asking that if I was out of line, to please let me know as I would like the opportunity to apologize.
Now several more days have passed and I haven't heard back. Additionally she has now shut out all comments on all posts. Well. Clearly I offended her, but I still don't know how. But I'll give it up. She clearly does not want to deal with me. So be it.
I'm not asking for solutions. At this point, there is none, other than what might come from her, and that seems unlikely. I did what I could based on what I know. I'm just lamenting the situation. I think it is really sad when someone gets offended but doesn't allow for resolution. I try to be sensitive and listen to others, but I do make mistakes. I appreciate knowing when I've been offhanded about something because my nature is to be kind and gentle, to set things right if possible. But I can't change what I don't know.
It is just strange. And sad.
I almost didn't publish the above. I'm glad I did. I heard from this person by email almost immediately as she is still reading my blog.
First of all, she has a new email addy, so the emails I sent went into the never-never-land of AT&T (BTW, that is one of the things I really hate about AT&T - they don't advise you if the account is closed). Secondly, for some reason, the comment I left never reached her. I don't know why, because when I posted it was when I was notified that she had monitoring turned on and it would be published after her approval. Perhaps a glitch in Blogger? Never-the-less, she didn't get it. She checked for several days, and when no one commented with support, she was so saddened that no one cared enough to even comment, so she decided to block all comments to avoid having to face the empty comment box.
I'm going to ask all of you to remember this unnamed person and her family in your prayers and meditations. Her situation is pretty bad. I'm not going into details, but trust me, she has a horrendous task ahead of her to climb out of a situation that has been two years in the making. She has struggled to make it work, but was not able to overcome some huge obstacles. She needs every kind word and every prayer we can give her. If you want, you can leave her some words here on my blog and I'll pass them along.
See how important our internet relationships can be?