I'm watching a marathon of "Empty Nest." Does anyone remember it? A sitcom from back in the 80s (?) about a widowed man whose two adult daughters live with him (off & on, as I recall), which I liked pretty well. I'm enjoying the trip to the past. I'm not feeling top notch today (nothing serious, just tired) and I'm planning to spend the day on or near the couch, so this is a blank-mind kind of program.
Actually, it's not really blank-mind. I've watched several episodes already, and I was thinking about how they interact as a family. Like most families on TV, they poke their noses into each other's business. This made me think about my own relationship with my kids. I've always tried to avoid nose-poking, even when my kids were kids (as in children and teens). Of course, I did get in their business when I sensed trouble, but tried to let them develop who they are on their own. Then as they became adults, I also did my best to stay out of the role of meddling mother (and mother-in-law, as well). I didn't always succeed, but I did try.
I wonder if my kids feel the same about my status. I know recently I've been more vocal about my girls and their marital problems. I'll make no excuses. I'm just irritated with two men who are being stupid and making excuses for it as they do "stupid" in a big way.
My parents were very hands off with me. They didn't boss me around, they gave me lots of freedom, and for the most part, I didn't abuse it. Of course, there were times I pushed the limits, but I enjoyed having the freedom resulting from their trust of me. There were also some times when they crossed the line with me as an adult, but it wasn't often. Having that kind of relationship with my parents was great. I tried to pass that on to my children. I hope they feel the same.
So how is it in your family? Do you nose around in each other's business or is it hands-off?