These are random musings of my life journey, the people, animals, places, and events which have woven, and continue to weave, a tapestry that is me. We all know there is no real destination, only the ongoing experiences which blend together, creating the trail. Each step gives a glimpse of what is to come, without allowing me to see the end result. It is exciting. I have a home base that is mine, that gives me a place to rest. This is it. This is where my heart is, no matter where I journey...................

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Welcome, all!

Well, my readership has certainly fallen off. Of 105 followers, you 17 are the only ones who cared enough to tag along with me. Hurray for you and thanks from me! I know there are others who read and aren't followers, as well, and I'm sorry to lose so many, but life's all about choices, isn't it?

This first post will be fairly brief. It's mostly to establish the links between me and each of you.

I know you're curious, so I'll tell you very briefly why this is private now. It's not a big deal, but in some ways, it is to me.

Long story made very short .... a friend and I had a falling out. There were two sides, but mine was ignored. I apologized for my part, but it was not accepted or even acknowledged. Meanwhile, she continued to criticize me and sent emails that became progressively worse and very passive aggressive in nature. I quit reading her FB and blog, but she continued to read mine, sending me, uhm, let's call them "critiques" via email.

I'm simply done. After two months of seeing, via the trackers, this person, well, stalking me on the blog, and accusations over silly and outright fictitious things, I've simply had it. As I said, not a really big deal, but one I can put a stop to. So I have.

For my part, I felt bad that it came to this. But I've always thought an apology should be accepted then you decide whether to get past it or go separate ways. Well, it is clearly the latter!

On a positive note, my sweet daughter is coming for a quick visit next week! Woo hoo!! She's a teacher, and it is her spring break. The kids will be with the ex, and so she is taking advantage of the time to visit me here and her dad and step-mom in Albuquerque.  Makes me happy!

 So there you have it. I'm back! I'm hoping at a few weeks/months of privacy will end the nonsense. I wouldn't care if she reads the blog, but I'm not OK with the criticism. Get over it!

Remember that you will not get the notices of my posts for a while. Sorry for that. Please check back occasionally to see if I've posted something.

See you all here soon!


14 comments:

  1. Oh I am so glad you're back amd more than happy that I made the cut LOL I am also pleased that your daughter is coming to visit....you needed that right now. I will keep checking for an update.......welcome back my friend!!!!!

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    1. It's good to be back, too, Ruth! :)

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    2. BTW, you know you'll always make the cut with me!

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  2. I've "broken" contact with a few friends over the years because our outlooks were so different and they didn't want to "give it a rest." It always hurts.

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    1. I tried to just let it rest, but she couldn't do likewise. After all, reason, season, lifetime. Sometime it is hard to accept the temporary nature of our relationships, because we want more.

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  3. I am sorry about your falling out. People can be so frustrating! Good you took matters into your own hands since your behavior is all you can control! :). I am glad to be on board!

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    1. Exactly, Dakota. And I'm hoping that with time, it will settle out.

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  4. It seems that the strangest phenomenon of this new digital world is the way people handle friendships (actually it's usually "acquaintances" that get handled this way) Digitalism gives people the idea that they are no longer accountable for their words/actions and they seem to say and do things that most people would never do face to face.

    The only good thing about what has happened between this person and you is that at least now they are out of your life! No one needs crud like that; and certainly no one needs a person disguising as a friend who is going to treat you that way.

    I've never been one to lots of acquaintances; I find real friends make life easier and serve as mutual support; but a multitude of acquaintances draw the sap right out of you and leave you feeling exhausted for no more reason than their presence. The drama I hear on FB from people I've worked with over the years (I'm a retired photographer) helps me stay in touch with what people are going through but I often wonder why they put up with some of the junk that happens to them. Oh well.... we all get to live our lives as we see fit.

    Anyway.... glad to make the cut. I enjoy your comments, insight and travels.

    Cheery by,
    Peter
    http://peterpazucha.com/awaywego/

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    1. Peter, I've said the same thing many times about the loss of decorum in electronic communication. It seems that people have simply forgotten the rules that apply to relationship maintenance. Like many things, people don't seem willing to take the time and effort it takes.

      Sadly, this was a close, long time friend. But relationships change. I've changed, too! But I think I haven't changed in ways that made up the wedge here.

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  5. We get to choose, even online. I have a couple of Facebook friends (actually relatives) who are so annoying online that I have chosen not to see what they post.

    Glad to see you're still with us, and us with you.

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    1. Linda, I've "hidden" a number of people, too! I also hide some things that I post on FB, because I don't want conflictual comments. "My house, my rules"!!!

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  6. Hey Lyn,

    I am honored to be here, but sorry you had to go through some misery with a "friend." Sometimes we have our eyes opened that the friendship was not indeed that. Yep, speaking from experience here again. Been there, got the coffee mug! :) Glad your daughter is coming to visit; I bet that will be a bright spot for you - we all need those. Somehow your new blog has a cozy, intimate feeling to it, having fewer folks. I look forward to our fledgling friendship blossoming!

    Peace,
    Betty

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    1. TRY, it is unfortunate, but I've moved to the place of recognizing that nothing lasts forever, and there is a reason for it all. Maybe, just maybe, one day I'll get it, but if not, it's OK. I'm glad you're here with us!

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  7. Oh Lyn I'm so happy that your daughter is coming for a visit! I know how special that time is. I haven't seen my Ginny since I had my knees done in August! Oh how I miss her!
    And I'm sorry about your troubles with this "friend" . So far I've been lucky on that but I like you, only have about 15 or so people that comment out 100 or so followers. You would think that mature women would know to act civilized and with some Grace but I guess some people just don't learn that over the years.
    I was confronted very hysterically by a woman that I thought was my friend, right in the middle of Wal-Mart. She was all swearing at me accusing me of saying something that I never said and would never say. Anyway I just walked away from her just shaking my head. The funny thing is that I don't think she was thinking at the time but she is my sons tenant in one of his houses. And now he's thinking of moving back into that house. Well you know what they say, what goes around , comes around!
    Thanks for the invite, I'd really miss you if I couldn't come here!!
    Love Di ♥

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If you have something to say about it, just stick out your thumb, and I'll slow down so you can hop aboard! But hang on, 'cause I'm movin' on down the road!!! No time to waste!!!