It's funny how some things come into my mind at odd times. I noticed something today. I put all of my larger Tupperware and Rubbermaid items out for the yard sale, keeping the ones that will accommodate leftovers for one or two people. Over the past few weeks, I have gone out and brought several of the larger ones back in. We have been having a pot luck just about every week, and I have needed larger containers than I planned on keeping. Today I realized that I have a social life! I really do!
OK, that probably sounds pretty strange to you, but I didn't have much social life before Glenn died. Of course, the last couple years were understandable because he was so ill. But before that it wasn't much different. He was certainly not a social butterfly. He didn't like to go places other than out to a restaurant occasionally. Over the years I had given up one friend after another because it was just to hard to balance friends on one had with a reclusive and rather grumpy husband on the other.
So, without even realizing it, I planned my life on the same terms. I didn't think consciously about it, but I guess I just prepared myself for a rather lonely life. Strange, because I used to be very socially active in many ways. My first hub and I were friends with a group that got together every week for something or other. I belonged to a sorority that was active in the community. I had friends from work as did he, that we socialized with together or separately. My house was the one that everyone wanted to come to. They all said it was always more fun when I was the hostess. I really don't know what was the difference, but I loved to entertain.
I've missed that through the years. I don't think I will ever be that actively hosting again, but I still enjoy having people around me. A lot! Whether my house or yours, I enjoy spending time with friends. For now it is just a potluck every week, but I hope it expands more as time goes on. I'd still like to go dancing if I can find a partner. I want to expand my circle of friends, although the ones I have now are very dear and special to me. I hope to have lots of avenues for the social outlet.
So-o-o-o-o-o, I'm guessing this might be part of why I've not been able to get my act together and have that yard sale. I needed to rethink what to keep. I'm doing that very seriously now, and I think tomorrow will be the day that I take another look through the "discards" to see if anything should be rescued. Next weekend looks like a dandy time for the sale, don't you think?