I wonder how long it will take. How many decades, centuries will we live through before we get it, all of us, the whole of humankind?
I've read a couple comments recently that just break my heart and make be want to smack some ignorant, immature face, too.
Young women .... no, girls .... commenting on FB about men who don't live up to their responsibility, men who make a good front about fatherhood but aren't what they seem. Did I say "men"? I should probably change that to "boys."
When will we become the sort of parents/adults who make sure our children/teenagers understand the realities of what can happen (pregnancy), and the ensuing lifetime commitment (parenthood), and the reason for approaching it as a couple, not as an afterthought of pleasure, or as a game that we can switch into "off" mode at will.
Honestly. I'm just aghast at the youthful stupidity that leads to a young woman opening her legs because [fill in the excuse] and then not considering the probability of pregnancy. It is usually blown off, er, excuse me, rationalized by things like "I can raise this baby by myself," [yeah, you probably will have to] or "He'll be there for me," [OK, whatever, just like he is willing to marry you now, right?] or "It's OK, he promises to buy diapers." Holy shit.
I'm not trying to blast young men who take advantage of a situation [or give in to the hormones]; most of us do at one time or another. I'm not trying to besmirch young women who think they are old enough to "love;" again, it's pretty typical based on their development. But damn it, people, yes, you "grown up" parents who are not supervising your kids, allowing your kid's peer pressure to circumvent your parenting responsibilities, not giving your kids the necessary education and guidance so they can make good decisions based on the lifetime commitment of having babies!
Babies are not toys!
A 17 year old, an 18 year old, hell's bells, many 22 year olds, are not prepared for parenthood, let along doing it solo. We pretend that children are growing up faster than we did. Bull shit. Plain and simple, they may put on makeup and sexy clothing, and they may talk a good story, but childhood development is still pretty much on the same track as it always was .... no one, NO ONE is ready to parent at ages under, oh, I don't know, maybe 25? Me included .... pregnant at 19, mother at 20 .... but I at least had a husband who joined me in the process and stuck around. I was entirely too flippin' young. But I had a guy who stuck around, who supported me and cared for me as his children's mother. We later divorced, probably because we were too immature to work out the rough patches. Hellooooooo!
OK, venting over. Resume happiness!