What people say

Yesterday marked an especially wonderful step ahead in my daughter's journey. She's had a rather hard set of tasks to accomplish during the past few months, but it came together yesterday. She was relieved and happy, I was delighted for her. There have been many streams of prayer for her, and she has held her intent and need in the light to receive blessings. And it all came to her, as we knew it would. But knowing it will come doesn't remove all the tension, so yesterday was a huge poof of happiness.

I posted this on FB to her attention.

And this morning, this comment was there:

Come on. Get real. Mother Nature doesn't care a wit about what you need, whether it's hurricane Sandy or the Gaza strip. People are suffering. The Universe (whatever that means) doesn't care about the individuals.

Zowee, powee!  I'm guessing she had a bad day, but holy cow. I didn't tell the story behind why I posted it to my daughter's attention, because I didn't think I needed to. If my daughter wishes to tell the story, she will. It's not a big secret, and it's very good, but it is hers. Besides .... inspiring words are good for everyone and are open to being internalized or passed over, as each reader wishes. I posted it on my own page, rather than hers, because I thought the message was uplifting for anyone reading it.

I've commented about this before, wondering why it is that people do such things. My theory is there are several ways to handle it when people write things on their own spaces that I don't like or disagree with.

1. Read it. Move on.
2. If it is frequent, I can "Hide" that person so their posts don't show up in my newsfeed.
3. If it is really bad, consistently negative or offensive, I can "Unfriend" them. Done deal. (And I "done dealed" a few folks the other day)

But I don't "argue" with the points of view by commenting on their posts. It's OK, it is their page. I just move on. And silly me, I expect others to have the same respect for my comments section! As I said, silly me! 

So I sent a note to this person:

Wow, [name], this message was especially for my daughter. She has been through a lot, and just had a huge forward lunge. Take it easy, please. Sorry if it irritated you, but in my space, please hold onto negative remarks. You say the universe/mother nature doesn't care; fine, that's your take on it. But respectfully, don't lash out. I do what I can to promote caring for others in need, so can't you give me a mother's moment?

I can't imagine what makes people jump in like that. Just don't understand it. But people handle matters so differently via electronic communications than they do vis-a-vis.

Wondering, have you experienced surprising or irritating or embarrassing or amusing or [fill in the blank] comments on your blog or FB?